I think your nagging concern about this situation is something felt by many people at work, especially when they know their colleagues are not being malicious.
If you want to work 10 or 12-hour days, go for it. But don’t force it on others and, for goodness’ (and your own) sake, leave Friday exempt.
I asked my manager directly whether I was being pushed out. They were defensive, and said that was just their job.
Sometimes a water cooler conversation about a weekend event, or a premature celebration of a seemingly certain victory, can go sideways.
A romantic relationship with a colleague might cause genuine problems but if you’re just inviting them to a barbecue, there is room to manoeuvre.
The idea of the “360-degree feedback” has always struck me as worthy in theory but highly dubious in practice.
Two colleagues sometimes come into the office after 9am and the office is grumbling – for no good reason.
I have a job that involves desk work. I just need to do it at my desk instead of someone else’s. It costs nothing to accommodate me.
The reason everyone except one brave soul stayed quiet in the meeting seems to me a problem of the culture of your workplace.
The maxim that “it’s not what you know but who you know” has been around for a very long time, and I’m sad to say it’s probably never been wrong.
